We ask this question : ”What Really Makes A Woman Happy” because,a lot of ladies out there think that marriage,and only marriage can make a woman
On the other side too,married women who have no children yet in their marriage think that children and children alone can make them happy and fulfilled in life.
Let’s think of this: A single lady in her age attends her friend’s wedding. At the wedding occasion,she was all moody and unhappy with herself.Then when she got home,she complained to her friends that her day at her friend’s wedding made her miserable. Why?Was it because she was not married?
I know you would say yes,but it is not true! The lady who at her friend’s wedding was unhappy with herself was feeling so not because she was not married. She was unhappy because,she let herself get jealous of her friend,on her wedding day.
This is what happens in human nature: When one begins to admire or long to have what others have or what others are enjoying,one gets oneself hurt. It is not the inability to have what others have that makes one get hurt,but longing to have what does not belong to one that hurts a man!
What makes a woman happy? Is it money? Marriage? Children?
What if a woman finally gets married but no children,will she still be happy? Surely not!
If a woman who thinks that marriage can make her happy finally gets married but doesn’t have children in her marriage at the end of the day and then becomes unhappy again,would we not conclude that truly, marriage itself cannot and does not make a woman happy?
Anxiety causes unhappiness and not anything else!
Remember Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith who have been successfully married for 20
Here are their findings on what truly make a woman happy in life:
“You cannot make a person happy,” he began. “You can make a person smile, you can make a person feel good, you can make a person laugh but whether or not a person is happy deeply, totally and utterly out of your control.”
He continued: “I remember the day I retired. I said to Jada, ‘I retire, I retire from trying to make you happy. I need you to go make yourself happy and just prove to me that it’s even possible.’ After we cracked the hell up, we started talking about it and we came into this false romantic concept that somehow when we got married, we would become one. We realized that we were two completely separate people on two completely separate, individual journeys and that we were choosing to walk separate journeys, together.( And that is true Will)
“Her happiness was her responsibility and my happiness was my responsibility and we decided that we were going to find our individual internal, private joy and then we were going to present ourselves to the relationship and to each other, already happy. Not coming to each other, begging without empty cups out demanding that she fill my cups and demanding that she meet my needs. It’s unfair and it’s kind of unrealistic and can be destructive to place the responsibility for your happiness on anybody other than yourself.”
Again we ask: What makes a woman happy?
Knowing the fact and realizing that it is the responsibility of oneself to make oneself fulfilled is ones responsibility to make,is the beginning of finding happiness.
Everyone is born with a purpose to fulfill,and no one is going to fulfill your own purpose,but you! Until one fulfills his purpose in life and stops being distracted,envious and jealous of others fulfilling their own purposes,one can never be happy in life!!!